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Relationship Vows
by Dr. Linda Miles

Dr.Linda Miles - Psycologist Over forty years as a marriage and family therapist, I have had the privilege of learning from my clients. I have had the opportunity to observe and study what makes lasting love. The below list identifies the kind of vows and commitment statements that lead to happy and lasting unions.

* We will provide safety to be honest and true to ourselves
* We will choose love instead of fear and attack thoughts
* We will treasure our connection and maintain an open heart to one another
* We will treasure our children and grandchildren
* We will be there when our family needs us
* We will move away from chaos toward unity and healing
* We will take turns serving as leader
* We will maintain spiritual practices that open our hearts and minds to love and transcend our egos
* We will make a conscious choice at moments of aggravation to step back, cool off and not lose sight of the pain of the other
* We will remember that true strength is not mean spirited but calm and clear
* We will respect that love partakes of the soul and that our soul is vulnerable
* We will celebrate everyday and guard the happiness of one another
* We will tell the truth with love
* We will allow negative feelings to flow through us without becoming attached to them
* We will invite the presence of God into our life
* We will focus on joy, love and miracles
* We will support one another's dreams
* We will seek inspiration and wisdom about relationships
* We will not expect perfection in a changing world, instead we will perfect our love
* We will remember May Sarton's caution to be gentle with one another in this brief time for we shall die in exile far from home
* We will remember that what matters in life is how much we have loved
* We will set goals together that are life-enhancing for us and our family
* We will be love finders rather than fault finders
* We will both be givers in our marriage
* We will kindle the spirit of the other
* We will encourage one another's individual interests
* We will share magical moments of love and laughter
* We will help one another face fears and pain and use them for transformation
* We will help one another find joy amidst suffering
* We will help the other remember the song of the heart
* We will model joy, love and meaning in a marriage for our children and grandchildren

Going through this list with your partner is a great couples exercise. Acknowledge the vows you have kept, and discuss the ones you both need to work on. A relationship filled with lasting love is something to treasure forever.

Author, Dr. Linda Miles, is deeply committed to helping individuals and couples achieve rewarding relationships. She is an expert with a Doctorate in Counseling Psychology, and has worked in the mental health field for over thirty years. She has been interviewed extensively on radio, TV, and in newspapers and magazines. Find more relationship ideas and relaxation techniques on her web site and in the award-winning book she co-authored, The New Marriage: Transcending the Happily-Ever-After Myth, and numerous CD's, that Train Your Brain. Dr. Linda Miles

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